It can sometimes feel like the biology of your vulva is playing hard to get with pleasure. A prime example: the coveted G-spot, that belly-side portion of your vaginal wall known to feel super good for some folks when it’s stimulated. It tends to be a sneaky little sucker, seemingly existing just out of reach of a dildo or penis. The good news is, if you take some time to learn your body (in a fun way!) and explore certain sex positions that naturally involve that area, figuring out how to hit your G-spot doesn’t have to be a treasure hunt.
Before you start digging for gold, it’s helpful to know what exactly you’re searching for. The G-spot is often more aptly described by sex educators as the G-zone because it can cover a broad area, Tara Suwinyattichaiporn, PhD, sexual and relational communication professor at California State University, Fullerton, and host of the Luvbites by Dr. Tara podcast, tells SELF.
(Spot can be “misleading,” she says, as it implies that there’s essentially one button you push.) Where yours is depends on your anatomy, Dr. Tara says; to find it, insert your finger and make a “come hither” motion, moving up the front wall of your vagina. You’re looking for an area that feels sensitive and may have ridges like the roof of your mouth, Marla Renee Stewart, sex educator and resident sex expert for Lovers, tells SELF.
For some—but not all!—people with a vagina, getting consistent pressure on their G-spot with a toy or penis can feel really fantastic. But this elusive region also gets a lot of hype because of some hetero-patriarchal nonsense, Gigi Engle, COSRT-registered sex and relationships psychotherapist based in the United Kingdom and lead intimacy expert at dating app 3Fun, tells SELF.
“One of the reasons that people are so hell-bent on stimulating [the G-spot] is because of this idea…that having penetrative orgasms is somehow more desirable than [coming from] external stimulation of your clitoris,” she says, ostensibly because the former can happen in the midst of typical P-in-V sex.
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But that’s a silly misconception because your G-spot is actually an internal portion of your clitoris. That’s right, your clit extends beyond the nub you can touch, branching into two legs that wrap around your vagina, and your G-spot is thought to be the back end of that structure. Because the entire organ is loaded with nerve endings, stimulating any part of it (internal, external, or both) can feel great and lead to equally amazing orgasms. In fact, more than 70% of women in a 2015 survey said that they needed some kind of external touch to orgasm during sex or that it made finishing feel better.
Below, you’ll find plenty of sex positions that make it easy to hit your G-spot and double up with clit play too.
First, some advice for any kind of G-spot stimulation.
It’s a good idea to do some solo G-spot play before diving into sex positions that involve another person (whether they have a penis or are wearing a strap-on), mostly to figure out if this is something you enjoy, Engle says. A curved wand or rabbit toy (which has two “ears,” one for internal and one for external stimulation) will be your best bet for achieving deep enough penetration and the right angle to stimulate your G-spot, she notes. You can also just insert a finger or two (or enlist a partner to do so!), applying some pressure on your G-spot with that curving “come hither” motion.
If you’re into any or all of the above, then it’s worth venturing into the positions below. When you’re getting started, slower thrusting may be a better way to apply pressure to your G-spot than jackhammer-style pulsing, Engle says. And the golden rule of all things sex-ploration also very much applies here: “Communication is key,” Dr. Tara says. Any time you get into a different position, be honest with yourself and your partner about how you feel, and gauge their experience too. Just asking, “Does this feel good for you?” is an easy way to check in and figure out whether you’re going down a mutually awesome path, Dr. Tara says.
Just as there should be zero pressure to stick with anything that feels less than fab, there’s also no need to keep changing it up if you’re loving what you’re doing. There’s a common myth that the more postures and poses you do, the better the sex, “but you can totally just stick to one position that works, and it can be amazing and pleasurable,” Dr. Tara says. (We’re just offering you a bunch of options so you can find the one(s) that work for your body—but you shouldn’t feel compelled to try every single one of ’em.)
If you do wind up switching things up a good deal, you’ll also want to get (re)acquainted with the power of lube, Dr. Tara adds. The more you pull all the way out, pause to re-adjust, and then go to re-insert, the drier things can get down there. And you want to avoid any unnecessary friction.
One last note: G-spot stimulation can sometimes lead to squirting, where someone with a vulva releases a gush of fluid at or near orgasm. (Which can be super hot!) But before that happens, you might get the sensation that you need to pee, Engle says, “which can inhibit some people’s ability to let go and actually [finish].” In this case, it’s important to remember that squirting ≠ peeing—because squirt fluid contains liquid from your bladder and your Skene’s glands (which are on either side of your urethra), and the act itself feels like a pleasurable sexual release (not like leaking). And to be clear, squirting is not weird, gross, or abnormal in any way, Engle says.
The 8 best G-spot sex positions
1. Lifted missionary
How to do it: This position is like your standard missionary (the receiving partner lies face-up on the bed with their legs open, and the penetrating partner hovers on top of them, so they’re face-to-face), but in this case, the receiver has a pillow under their butt to lift their hips up. (Might we suggest a wedge-shaped sex pillow for some supportive elevation?) The penetrator thrusts in and out, controlling the motion as they would in your standard missionary.
Why it’s great: “If you think of the regular missionary position, the vagina typically sits too low on the bed, and it’s not angled up at 45 degrees where it can receive the penis or a strap-on or a toy and get that stimulation on the front wall,” Dr. Tara says. With that extra lift from the pillow, you’re basically making it more likely that anything entering your vagina brushes up against your G-spot, she explains.
2. Open leg spooning
How to do it: Picture a typical spooning sex position, where the receiving partner is lying on one side and the penetrator is lying on that same side right behind them in order to enter from behind. With open leg spooning, the receiver just tweaks this setup by lifting their top leg, bending it, and moving it back slightly to rest it on their partner’s hip. (The penetrator is still entering from the back and can have their arms wrapped around the receiver.) To make this a little logistically easier, the receiver can also scooch their torso to form a perpendicular angle to their partner while leaving their lower body in place.
Why it’s great: Widening the space between your legs in the spooning position helps open up your vagina, which allows for deeper stimulation and better likelihood of hitting your G-spot, Dr. Tara says. And because your legs are spread apart while you’re on your side, you have “a lot of access to use a toy or hand on your external clitoris at the same time,” Engle says.
3. Cowgirl
How to do it: This is your classic receiver-on-top position: The penetrating partner lies flat on their back, and the receiving partner straddles them on their knees, placing one knee on either side of the penetrator’s pelvis while facing them. In this position, the receiver can then allow the penetrator’s penis or strap-on to enter them and move their hips up and down, sliding the toy or body part in and out of their vagina. While doing so, they can either lean back and support themselves with their thighs or tilt forward and place their hands on the penetrator’s chest for balance and stability.
Why it’s great: In this scenario, you get full control over the angle and depth of penetration because you’re able to shift the position of your pelvis while on top, Dr. Tara says. So basically, you get to experiment—for instance, moving your hips from side to side, forward and back, or in a circular motion—in order to figure out what kind of tilt or positioning best allows your partner’s strap-on or penis to put pressure on your G-spot.
4. Edge of the bed
How to do it: The receiver lies on their back with their upper body flat on the bed and their butt at the edge of it, either dangling their legs off the bed, lifting them up in the air, or resting one or both on the shoulder(s) of the penetrator, who stands in front of the bed, facing them. (The penetrator can also hold one or both of the receiver’s legs for extra support while they enter them.)
Why it’s great: The legs-up positioning makes deep penetration more accessible, Stewart says. And the fact that the penetrating partner is standing here may also give them more leverage to adjust how they’re moving or grinding depending on what feels best for the both of you.
5. Happy baby
How to do it: If you know the yoga position of the same name, you can likely picture the sex version too. While lying flat on their back face-up, the receiver gets into a happy baby by lifting both legs up toward the ceiling, bending their knees, and holding onto their big toes or the outsides of their feet, while letting their knees fall toward the bed on either side of their body. The penetrating partner then hovers over them on the bed, face-down, to enter them how they would in a traditional missionary position.
Why it’s great: Much like the other missionary-adjacent options on this list, happy baby makes it about as easy as possible for a penis or toy to get deep into your vagina and tap your G-spot, Dr. Tara says. She adds that if you’re extra bendy or looking for a hands-free option that offers similarly deep penetration, you can also lift both legs toward the ceiling at a 90-degree angle and rest them on the shoulders of your partner. In either case, your clitoral nub is also uncovered, making it easy to touch yourself or use an external vibrator down there at the same time.
6. Lying-down doggy
How to do it: Envision a doggy-style position (receiver on all-fours, penetrator entering from the back) but with both people lying stomach-side down, the receiver on the bottom and penetrator on top of them, similarly entering from behind. (A pillow under the pelvis of the receiver can also make this pose more accessible.) The penetrator can fully lie on top of the receiver and wrap their arms around them, or put their hands on the bed on either side of their partner to prop themselves up a bit.
Why it’s great: The angle of penetration that happens with both people lying face-down “puts more pressure on the internal structures,” Engle says, including the anterior wall of the vagina where the G-spot is located. Not to mention, it can feel like a more intimate take on typical doggy-style since you’re physically very close to your partner, almost like they’re hugging you from the back, Dr. Tara says. To add in some clit play too, you can also put a wand vibrator underneath you and lie on top of it, Engle says.
7. Lotus
How to do it: A position in tantric sex—which comes from the ancient Indian practice of tantra and emphasizes sensuality as a route to the divine—the lotus position is a super intimate one (hello, close eye contact). The penetrating partner sits cross-legged on the bed or floor while the receiving one sits in their lap, facing them, and wraps their arms and legs around them, like a big hug. From there, the receiver controls the penetration, allowing the penetrator to enter them by bouncing up and down on their thighs or toward and away from them (whichever movement feels most accessible).
Why it’s great: Because of the angle of penetration you’ll achieve with both partners sitting upright and facing each other, the penis or dildo will naturally be pointing toward your belly as it enters, Stewart says, which makes it more likely that it’ll hit your G-spot. As with the Cowgirl position, you can also control the speed and depth of penetration in this one, which gives you the chance to experiment until you find what feels best.
8. Toy and tongue
How to do it: Okay, this one isn’t exactly a body position for penetrative sex, so much as it is a reminder not to forget about the curved sex toys literally designed to make stimulating your G-spot easier. Engle recommends combining toy play with oral sex: The giver can insert something like a stainless steel wand (she likes the one from nJoy), while also using their tongue on the receiver’s external clit. And both partners can be in whatever positions are most comfortable while allowing the giver easy access to the receiver’s vulva.
Why it’s great: This is a pretty “optimal” experience for the receiver, Engle says, because you’re getting the benefit of a curved toy—which may be better than a penis or straight dildo in terms of accessing your G-spot—as well as the kind of external clit stuff that can only happen with oral (licking, sucking, kissing, etc.). Orgasmically speaking, it’s basically a best-of-both-worlds scenario.
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